[10.37] Issue of being unsuccessful

• Two things’ people take on compensating strategies 
• Number one people pleasing and passivity in an attempt to be liked
• It’s to be a high performer and take on this performer persona
• It works in creating their initial success
• In my case, it ultimately leads to a lack of fulfillment
• It’s because it’s not who they genuinely are underneath
• At the end of the day these are compensating strategies people are leveraging 
• It’s an attempt to avoid pain
• Who we become is this amalgamation of genuine traits and characteristics 

[14.40] Jake’s Journey

• I experienced quite a bit of success in corporate
• And yet I found myself fundamentally unhappy
• I never had an issue with attracting romantic partners
• Yet something internally was missing
• I’d say to my clients that the pattern always reveals so
• Self-sabotage is another way of saying self-protecting

[21.43] Patterns

• First of all, we look at the mountain, that’s our life.
• Our entire goal is to conquer it and overcome it
• Our entire pursuit is for power, possession, and prestige
• Possession is financial abundance
• Prestigious is typically image and status
• Power is influence
• When we’re kids, we need to develop a healthy ego structure
• Confidence: I can do it and I what it takes
• Most of us get locked in this phase of development

[25.00] Soul

• In first half of life, we’re primarily concerned with answering what do I want
• In second half of life, the primary question is what I can contribute
• Transformation is so much more about UNBECOMING
• It’s not about getting somewhere; it’s about returning to who we truly are.
• That requires PAIN
• That’s what deconstruction is all about
• Pain is the fundamental part of the deconstruction process
• Until You make the unconscious conscious – it’ll direct your life
• You call it fate

[33.47] Reconstruction

• Reconstruction without deconstruction will always be incomplete
• Deconstruction without reconstruction is mental masturbation
• We have to go on a further journey
• That becomes bigger than Who We Are
• It naturally evolves into serving others
• Reconstruction is all about coming home back to authentic self
• Where we have nothing to prove & protect

Secret Success Story [36.01] to [39.06]

[40.41] Let Love In

• All of us have threshold when it comes to amount of JOY
• Until we heal, we can’t expand that threshold
• We can’t move beyond our present limitations
• Everyone wants to get to heaven, but nobody wants to die 
• Everyone wants the resurrection, but nobody wants the crucifixion
• The way up is the way down
• Number one goal of ego is to maintain status quo
• The best way for it do that is to hide the truth from you
• Which why the pain stops when the truth starts
• Pain is inherent part of growth
• Suffering is the way through
• No man can escape influence

EGO: Edging God OUT

GOD equals truth

YAWYAW: You Are What YOU Associate With

[52.08] Happiness

• Hedonic Adaptation
• Fifty percent of it is genetics what we inherit from our parents
• Forty percent is attitude
• Ten percent is the environment
• Yes the environment plays a huge role 

What’s your most fervent desire?

It’s to constantly increase my capacity to love myself, love God and love others.

“Jake Kauffman is an International Spiritual Mentor & Life Coach to purpose driven, visionary men & entrepreneurs who are seeking to grow in their life & leadership.

He is a former successful healthcare technology executive who upon achieving massive external success found himself unhappy, unfulfilled & empty internally. He quickly realized that people don’t have business problems, they only have personal problems that show up in their business.