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Kindness Givers Formula

Kindness Givers Formula

The Ambassador of Joy, Barry Shore, is pleased to SHARE the creator of the Reality TV Series The Kindness Factor. Randy McNeely is an author, speaker, singer, song writer, podcast host, executive producer, passionate kindness advocate, and kindness leadership coach. Randy is the author of “The Kindness Givers’ Formula,” sharing a simple yet powerfully effective formula for touching hearts, changing lives, and transforming the world. You’ll lean in as Barry and Randy discuss the IMPACT of Kindness in our troubled turbulent world. Randy also discusses the positive economic power of kindness. Imagine that! Positive economic impact. Listen again and again and Share with at Least 5 Others.

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Show Notes:

  • 00:45 – Barry’s rousing introduction
  • 14:17 – Randy McNeely on Kindness Givers Formula
  • 24:40 –Somebody gave me a speaking topic of asking why kindness matters?
  • 41:55 –How do we engineer kindness for us?
  • 52:21- Barry’s Interesting Wrap-up

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Barry Shore:

I cannot think of anyone that I would love to share with you, inspires noble deeds, than the wonderful, amazing, fantastic Randy McNeely. Wonderful Randy, say hello to 356,827 people around the world.

Randy McNeely:

Well, hello everybody. What a pleasure it is for me, and a joy Barry, to be able to have the chance to be on with you today. My goodness. I can’t be on with you for 30 seconds without feeling like I’ve just been lit up. It’s great.

Barry Shore:

Well, that’s because you are a light-emitting diode. You are an LED sir. You lead the way with kindness. And that’s what really going to speak about today. Because if I started reading to you all the things that Randy’s involved in, what he does as a speaker, an author, a producer of a TV show, a songwriter, and a person who is deeply involved in making a difference. He is a madman that will take up the rest of the show. So, we’re just going to jump right in and start with a great topic. Because it is all about kindness, isn’t it, Randy? So, let’s just talk about why you believe, not just believe, why do you know, KNOW, that kindness is the key to building trustworthy relationships. Why?

Randy McNeely:

Well, I’m going to answer that by throwing out another quick question. Somebody gave me a speaking topic of asking why kindness matters. And the fact that it is kindness matters because people matter. And when it comes to building the relationships that you just talked about we’re talking about building relationships with people. And when people know you care, that’s when they want to talk with you, that’s when they want to be around you, that’s when they want to interact with you. If I come across as a jerk, if I’m not being kind, if I am exhibiting behaviors that are not conducive to engendering trust, then how many people are going to want to be with me or work with me or do anything with me, they’re not. They’re going to around and walk away, they’re going to stay away there, and they’re not going to recommend me to anybody else. They’re going to say don’t go near that guy. He is poison.

Barry Shore:

By the way, I’m going to jump right in on something that you said. And I want to go to a higher level or a deeper level, depending on how you say it. If you start acting like a jerk, as you said, those are your words, people will be repelled. But guess who really is going to be repelled the most? Yourself.

Randy McNeely:

Exactly.

Barry Shore:

The greatest kindness that you can ever do is to be kind to yourself. When you become kind to yourself then now you begin to channel that same kindness in other relationships. Is that not correct?

Randy McNeely:

Oh, that’s absolutely true. And if we’re not able to look ourselves in the mirror and say, hey, I have value. I’m unique, I have value, I can make a difference, and be able to really feel that. Not just be saying it but actually feel that we’re going to have a hard time giving away any kindness to other people. Instead, we’ll be projecting our own unkind feelings towards ourselves onto other people. You can’t give away what you don’t have.

Barry Shore:

This is the beauty and the genius why people, thank God by the hundreds of thousands tune in to listen to the Joy of Living. It’s not because of Barrie Shore, and even not because of you, Randy. It’s because of the person you, the one listening. Because you care the most in the whole world about yourself. What Randy just shared with us is really something of momentous proportions. You cannot give or share what you don’t have. So, if you really want to make a difference in the world then the ability to be kind to oneself, to understand that you are, as you said, unique and special, and have the ability to contribute that is the beginning of the process, isn’t it? You want to make that well as deep as possible. So, how do you use kindness to build greater and more beneficial relationships?

Randy McNeely:

Well, if we’re going into a new situation, or we’re in a current situation treating people with respect, listening generously. If you’re on a call-like conversation like this, make sure your phone is turned off. Make sure that you remove distractions so that your ears are listening forward if you will, and paying attention to what’s being said in front of you. And then show a genuine interest in people. Find out what makes them tick, why they are the way they are. Be willing to ask questions that help you to get to know them and be willing to share as well. Allow people to get to know you. There are so many different behaviors that all engender trusts that are based on kindness. Everything that we build our relationships on. Honesty, setting clear expectations, showing respect, listening generously, being on time, keeping commitments, a whole plethora of other things that you could talk about. They all open up the door. They’re all behaviors that engender trust. And when people trust you, that’s when they’re willing to open their hearts. And kindness is the key to connection which opens up the door to trust if that makes sense.

Barry Shore:

Not only does it makes sense, but it also makes dollars, it makes thousands, it makes millions, it makes trillions. It’s the currency of life. It is truly that [inaudible: 15:13]. Now, I’d like to mention that because you know that I love acronyms. And one of the reasons people tune into the show, they love acronyms. So, we have a deep acronym for listen, which stands for locating, insightful, sustainable, transformative energy now. And I think you encapsulate it by saying if you’re going to be working with another being, whether it’s a remote situation like this, or it’s person to person, which of course is better, maskless and really human to human or a group of people. It is incumbent upon people to make sure that that which does distract, does not impose upon that which is geared to attracting. In other words, what we want to do is attract each other, rather than distract from each other. Is that fair to say?

Randy McNeely:

Exactly. I think that’s fair to say, yes. If you permit me, Barry, I’d like to go back to something I should have said in the beginning. When it comes to kindness, and being able to build relationships of trust with people, first of all, we have to make sure we have both the right mindset and the right heart set, if you will. Mindset meaning, seeing and thinking about people as people not as objects, not as things to be used, not as means to an end but other human beings that deserve to be cared for and valued. And our hearts set meaning believing that people have value and that they’re worth being loved. And the behaviors that we exhibit are conducive towards that. So, we have to have the right mindset and the right heart set in order to truly be able to utilize kindness to its full potential and be able to reap the tremendous benefits that can come to ourselves and to everyone that we come in contact with.

Barry Shore:

So let’s unpack some of this and go deep into mindset and heart set. Can you give us two maximum three concrete practical steps that I can use for myself to begin that process to make sure that the one or two or several people that I’m interacting with that I’m really working my mind and heart set? What can I do to prepare for that?

Randy McNeely:

Well, first of all, let’s go back to what we were saying earlier about kindness to ourselves. The last person we want to objectify is ourselves. We don’t want to think of ourselves as an object. So first of all, we have to remember that I have value. That’s the first thing I have to think about. I have value. I’m unique. We go to the auctions, people spend millions of dollars on items at an auction because it’s rare, and it’s one of a kind or whatever. Well, think about this. You’re one of a kind. Each one of us is one of a kind, each one of us is rare, and every one of us is priceless. We’re priceless. And so, the second thing is, is to remember that you and I are here for a purpose. And we have the unique ability to touch hearts and change lives if we’re willing to put forth the effort, starting with our own.

Barry Shore:

So, the first part of the mindset is to recognize that I am worthy.

Randy McNeely:

Yeah. [Crosstalk: 18:57] value, I am worthy. And then remember that because we’re unique and worthy and have value we can, as you would say go mad. We can go mad and make a difference. We can look for opportunities to lift and build, serve and bless other people. So, once we have the right mindset towards ourselves then we can start looking outwardly and say, okay, how can I serve and lift and build and bless others?

Barry Shore:

So this is fabulous. In other words, what you said is, once I have established that I am worthy, I am of value and it’s something that I believe takes work. Because oftentimes no matter who the family is that you’re raised with there is a process of unfolding in oneself that says, yeah, maybe I am but maybe I’m not and there’s a doubt until clarity comes into life. And once you have clarity and confidence, they go together, now you’re saying the key of living successfully, I’m putting words in your mouth is to look outward to seek opportunity to be of service. Are you telling us that the heart part of this, the mind part is being understanding worthy, value? The heart’s part is using the word serve or service as the key? Is that fair to say?

Randy McNeely:

That is fair to say. Because when the heart set comes in, we love other people, we care about other people, we want to serve and to help. And the beautiful thing is, it’s a reciprocal thing. We cannot love other people and serve other people without having love and service come back to us. It doesn’t happen. 

Barry Shore:

Right. It’s a law. 

Randy McNeely:

It’s like there’s a statement, cast your bread upon the waters it comes back to you again. But you think about it like this. You cast your bread upon the waters with love and it not only comes back to you again, it comes back buttered and toasted, and with jam.

Barry Shore:

Orange Marmalade, please.

Randy McNeely:

Yes, or a little bit of honey.

Barry Shore:

This is beautiful. I’d like to share with you two things. Number one is, the great acronym that we use for law. When people hear the word law sometimes they shrivel, they think law, oppressive and such. And we’re using it in the opposite way of expansion because law stands for love and wisdom. In other words, the law that you’re discussing, and it is a law as much as the law of gravity, the law of reciprocity, the law of attraction. Love and wisdom make it so that you cannot be of service without gaining something. Now, there is a way, of course, that you can say, look, I’m doing this only because I want to gain, you’ll still gain. But the gain you have would be less than if you just decided and acted to serve because of service. In other words, the multiplier effect is greater when the heart is open more. Is that correct to say?

Randy McNeely:

I would say that that’s true. What ends up missing if you’re doing it just to do it not because you really want to do it? Let’s say your mom or dad or you volunteered for something because your boss asked you to and you go and do it, it’s a good thing to do. But your heart’s not in it. Well, you might accomplish some good things, that’s great. But when your heart is in it, people can feel it and that love reciprocates in greater ways. When your heart’s not in it, when you’re there just going through the motions, people can feel that too. And they don’t feel like reciprocating, it doesn’t come back that. That law that we just talked about, doesn’t work right.

Barry Shore:

By the way, this applies when we’re talking about service we’re not talking that one has to become Mother Teresa. We’re talking about service in any aspect of your life. In other words, a doctor. Wow, of course, that service. Well, there are many types of doctors. There’s a Ph.D. is called a doctor. In other words, the ability to share that which you have doctors, lawyers, Indian chiefs, a cook. A cook actually is one of the greatest forms of service. It doesn’t matter whether you’re a cook in a fast-food restaurant, or in a place that charges $1,000 for a meal. It’s not the point. The point is what are you bringing to your occupation, to your work, to that which you have chosen to do? And I think that’s really what you’re mentioning here, Randy. Is that the ability to do that with full openness of heart brings about a benefit that is literally immeasurable. It’s as you said, cast your bread upon the water. It’s the ripple effect of, let’s say the butterfly effect. So, do you want to tell people about the butterfly effect or should I mention it? 

Randy McNeely:

Go ahead. 

Barry Shore:

Okay. So, this is your show. Because see, I want to tell everybody in advance Randy is a ringer. What does that mean? I love Randy, I asked him to be on the show. He’s wonderful because he is to me the essence of the giver. That’s really what his life is all about. And the show called The Joy of Living, this show can be summed up in one-word giving. So, the butterfly effect is very important in the world of science because scientists have determined that butterflies who go on yearly migrations by the millions, tens of millions, and let’s say from the northern continent to the southern content and they gear against the mountainsides at the flapping of a butterfly’s wings in the Andes can affect the airwaves and cause or help contribute to tsunami in Japan. That’s the butterfly effect. Now, if that happens by a butterfly, which is not a sentient being, how much more so for a human being consciously and conscientiously doing service. And that’s what Randy’s talking about. That multiplier effect literally creates a tsunami of goodness and kindness and giving in the world. And that’s really the essence of what Randy is all about and such like that. Because he’s an engineer. He’s engineering kindness in our lives. So, let’s move into the engineering phase of what we’re talking about here. Randy, how do we engineer kindness for us? An engineer, let’s say builds bridges. How does an engineer in kindness build bridges?

Randy McNeely:

Well, let me throw a little formula out there for you. It’s part of a book that I wrote called “The kindness Givers formula,” and it’s easy. Anybody who wants to can learn this formula and start engineering kindness on a regular basis in their lives today. As soon as they’re listening, take down the steps.

Barry Shore:

Remember everything you want to hear you don’t have to write it down just listen because it’s all a barryshore.com. There’s so much about Randy that you’re going to find there. His TV show we’ll talk about later, and the formula. Just go to barryshore.com, it’s all there. Just listen deeply now. Please, Randy.

Randy McNeely:

The first step for the kindness givers formula is every day determine I’m going to be a kindness giver. Get up look in the mirror say to yourself, I’m going to be a kindness giver today. You might say, well, that’s just a silly little thing to do, look in the mirror. Why am I going to do that? The fact of the matter, the reason it’s important is because it puts it top of mind right at the beginning of the day, I am going to be a kindness giver today. And it starts you thinking that way as soon as you get up. The second step, take a few minutes and think about your day. Think about who you’re going to be with, where you’re going to be, what you’re going to be doing, and plan out potential opportunities to be kind. They don’t have to be big things. They can be simple things. Smile, hold the door, say thank you, etc. Third thing, every day look for and act on opportunities to be kind. Once you’ve planned out the potential opportunities go forward with your day, and keep your kindness antennas up if you will. And look for opportunities to be kind. Again, they don’t have to be big things. They can be simple things. They can be very Barry Shore texting you saying hey, Randy, I think you’re awesome. 

Barry Shore:

I do.

Randy McNeely:

He does. And he sends with rainbows, sunshine, and all kinds of great stuff. You can say thank you, show appreciation to somebody for some little thing that they did for you, or some big thing that they did for you, whatever it might be. We never know when some simple little act we do right now might be affecting somebody for 20 years, or 30 years or 40 years down the road. So, every day look for and act on opportunities to be kind. Step number four, invite and encourage other people to do the same thing, every day. And then there’s a final step that I’ve added, it’s not in my book. It’s going to be in my second edition. And that’s every day, at the end of the day take time to reflect on your experiences that you’ve had with either giving or receiving kindness and then write them down. Record them. And here’s why that’s so important. Does anybody here listening ever have a bad day? 

Barry Shore:

Maybe. We have hundreds of thousands of people from all over the world, literally all walks of life. I’m sure there might be one person in this group, even though they’re listening to The Joy of Living, maybe, maybe had a tough hour, not a whole day, a tough hour.

Randy McNeely:

We all have challenging times or challenging days when we feel a bit down. The beautiful thing about writing down your experiences with happiness with giving kindness etc., and I say experiences with happiness because you can’t help but feel happy when you give kindness away or when people give you kindness. So, you can go back and look at that journal or look at those entries, and if you’re feeling a little bit down just reread some of those experiences and I can promise you that those feelings of joy and happiness that you had the time will come back. And the feelings of discouragement or depression that you’re feeling at the time will dissipate. It might not dissipate immediately but they will.

Barry Shore:

This is a guarantee that Randy is giving us. When you follow the formula he guarantees this will happen and benefit you or your money back. Now, there’s more Randy coming back on the other side of this break. We have just a short break. Sponsors love us. They are kind enough to give us their attention. Give your attention to them. And there’s more Randy McNeely the kindness person, the officer, the champion of goodness coming right back after these brief messages don’t go away.

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Barry Shore:

Good day beautiful, bountiful, beloved immortal beings and good-looking people. You’re good-looking because you’re always looking for and finding the good. We have good in abundance, our cup runneth over with good. Randy McNeely, is the essence of kindness, the channeling of good in the world, a child of God and he shares with us the kindness formula. He talks about building trust, trust standing for total reliance upon something true and sharing with other people. Share stands for spreading happiness and rejuvenating energy. That’s what Randy does. By the way, Randy is also a songwriter and an instrumentalist, a husband, and a father, a great guy, a friend, and a television producer. Let’s talk about your TV reality show because I think it stands unique in the current situation of what’s happening in our world. It’s geared towards bringing forth that which we’re talking about right now. So, let’s delve in for a number of good minutes of what the show is about, what you’ve produced so far, and what looks to be happening in the next season, Randy.

Randy McNeely:

Oh my goodness. Thank you, Barry. I appreciate you bringing that up. I am the Executive Producer for a kindness-driven reality TV show, Positive Reality TV. Yes, that does exist.

Barry Shore:

Wait a minute that sounds like an oxymoron but it’s not. It’s actually true.

Randy McNeely:

It is true. The premise behind the show is to share stories of individuals and organizations who are doing kind things in the world. It’s called The Kindness Factor. And it’s all about how kindness factors into their lives. These are individuals who have been through tremendous challenges and yet have not allowed those challenges to crush them. They’ve used them as stepping stones to create amazing organizations. And the whole purpose of the show is to showcase them. Showcase them, showcase their organizations, and showcase what they’re doing in the world with a twofold goal. First, to remind people that there are a lot of people out there that are still doing wonderful, good kind things in the world despite what we see on social media and on the news all the time, all the negativity that they try to feed us. There are a lot of good things that are going on out there. And second is, to inspire our audience. To share inspiring, emotionally engaging stories with them. And help them to recognize that if these people that we’re seeing on this show can do these things I can do this too. To inspire them to get up and take action. And to be kind and to give love away. Kindness is love and action. So you want to show love to people, be kind. And the kindness factor is all about inspiring kindness, spreading kindness, sharing, and giving a voice and a platform to these wonderful people with the other goal, I guess there are three goals, is to inspire our audience. Yes, I can talk. If they’re in an area where the organizations are they can volunteer or they can also donate as generously as they can.

Barry Shore:

This is so wonderful. And again, the ability to search out, find and produce a television series as dedicated to that which every single being really aspires to, which is to become a channel of goodness, a child of God. Because if you ask somebody would you like to be kind, well, absolutely? Well, what stops you? Well, in reality, nothing. What Rand is saying is nothing will stop you if you use the formula. See the formula works. Here’s the great news about life. The formula works, you work the formula and it works. Just like Newton discovered the laws of gravity. It works everywhere all the time. Einstein became famous for a couple of letters, equals, mc squared, even though there were hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of equations behind it. But it’s the formula that works. Randy has given us the kindness formula, and guess what it works. And here is really where I’m going to make it so practical and grounded in the here and now. The kindness formula will bring about the following. You will be happier, healthier, and wealthier as a result of it, and who doesn’t want that. If somebody asks you, would you like to be happy, healthy, and wealthy, and say, no, I’m not into that right now? Well, no, that’s not what you would say. You say, yeah. How do I do that?

Randy McNeely:

I don’t need to do that right now. [Crosstalk: 38:31-38:34] sicker and just downright out of it.

Barry Shore:

Elon Musk would like to make an appointment. Excuse me, tell him next week I’m a little busy right now. The kindness formula works in the world, and it works for you, through you, and with you. Literally, it’s a shift that happens. Now it’s funny, Randy, we’ve discussed this before that. I don’t know why but people have this problem with the word shift, they tend to drop the F, [inaudible: 39:06] shift happen, the other stuff they think about. So, really shift happens when you adopt the formula and you do it daily. And by the way, it’s all good. You’re going to get a benefit from it. So, let’s go a little bit deeper on something else. We’ve discussed many times before, touching hearts and changing lives. Really, that’s what the television show is about. But that’s what your life is about. That’s what your life is to your family, to your friends, to all the organizations that you work with touching hearts and changing lives. So, let’s give us two stories, real stories, either from the TV show or something else that you want to about somebody that had a change of heart and now is touching lives.

Randy McNeely:

Well, I can give you the first story, it comes from my own life, and I’ve shared this multiple times. But it’s a powerful story. And it’s something that happened nearly 40 years ago, and it’s still affecting me. When I was a young man, I’ll just put it this way, my father made some serious mistakes, and he was being prosecuted. And it was all over the newspapers. It was all over the radio, the newspapers, and the news. I was a newspaper boy. And so I go to get my papers to get ready to deliver them, and there’d be a headline on the front of the paper about my dad. And so, needless to say, it was highly embarrassing. And my self-esteem at the time was just non-existent. I felt terrible about myself. Somehow, my classmates elected me to be a representative to our Student Council at the junior high school where I was going, and I don’t remember how that happened. But I was asked by the student body president to type up an agenda for a meeting that we were going to have. So I typed it up. And I went to the class early and spread out the agendas on each of the desks. And I was just sitting there waiting. We had another 10 minutes or something like that before the meeting was going to start, and nobody was there but me. And then this beautiful friend of mine, a lovely young lady named Rochelle Knight came walking in the room. She was very popular. She was a cheerleader. She was vivacious, and she was nice to everybody. And she came in and she picked up one of the agendas, and she started looking at it. And she looked up at me and said, not in an unkind way. But she said, did you know he misspelled the word, miscellaneous? I looked at it, and I was like, oh, no. And inside I was just dying, totally embarrassed. And then I responded in a way that reflected exactly how I felt about myself at the time. I just responded exactly like this. I said, oh, I guess you think I’m pretty stupid huh. And she did not miss a beat in her response. She said, oh, no, I don’t. I think you’re pretty neat. I’ve never forgotten those nine words, Barry. I’ve never forgotten them. At that time, I had no idea how much I needed to hear those words. I turned and walked out of the room, and then I ran, I sprinted down the hall to the boys’ bathroom and went and hid in a stall, locked the door and I guess cried. I needed to hear those words. And for me, not to [unintelligible: 42:54] religious but for me, I felt in my heart, in my mind, you see, somebody else thinks you’re neat, and you really are. And I never forgot that feeling of love that came into my heart. I’ve never forgotten. I had a feeling of love wash over me right at that time. And I’ve never forgotten that. And that has blessed my life ever since then. I mean, if I had tough and challenging times where I’ve been down on myself since then I’d be an absolute liar if I said I hadn’t. But again, kind of like the gratitude journal when I had those times I can look back on that experience and many others. I have been so tremendously blessed with good kind people in my life. But I can look back on that and think, okay, I’m okay. I am pretty neat. I can make it through this. That was a total blessing in my life. Now, one other quick story of touching somebody’s heart and transforming life. I have made it a goal, when my wife and I got married there were certain things that we said we were going to do. One of the things we determined we would do is always try to serve our neighbors. And we’ve made it a habit everywhere we’ve lived, and we’ve lived in a lot of places. Everywhere we’ve lived in the wintertime when there’s been snow we’ve gone out and started shoveling the snow for our neighbors, shoveling their sidewalks, and shoveling their driveways, and other things like that. And it’s just become a habit. We moved into this neighborhood where we are now, we’ve been here for about seven years. And when we first moved here I make it a habit of everywhere I go, I go around and start introducing myself to my neighbors. I walked around our neighborhood which has about 60 homes and introduced myself to every single family in the neighborhood. And as I was doing the several people said oh, you don’t want to get to know, Mark because he’s the neighborhood grouch, and he’s not very nice. I had several people tell me oh, you want to watch out for Mark, he’s a real grouch, you don’t want to get to know him. And you just might want to stay away from him. Well, I took that as a personal challenge to get to know Mark. So, I went and knocked on his door. And within 30 seconds I could see why people said what they said but I listened and he told me a few things. And we talked, we ended up talking for about five minutes. And I said, well, I’m glad to be here, and it’s nice to meet you. And that was that. I determined though as I walked away from there that I was going to somehow win his heart and become his friend. And so when the first snow came, I walked over and started shoveling snow on his driveway. And it’s like five o’clock in the morning. I like to get out early [inaudible: 46:25] that I’m doing it. And so, I’m out there at five o’clock and I start shoveling, the next thing I know 30 seconds after I started maybe a minute, couldn’t have been more than a minute after I started. I hear this front door open and hear this clock, clock, clock, clock down the sidewalk. And he comes around the corner and sees me shoveling and he says, what that blank, blank are you doing? I said, well, I’m shoveling your driveway. I don’t need your help. I can do it myself. I said, okay, I can understand that. And then I had inspiration come into my mind. I said, okay, I get it. You want to do it yourself. I’m happy to let you do it yourself. But I wonder if he might be willing to help me out as a friend, as a neighbor. And he’s like, well, what do you mean? I said, well, I’m a big fat guy and I need to lose a bunch of weight, would you let me shovel your driveway so I can get some extra exercise. 

Barry Shore:

This is so good. 

Randy McNeely:

I can see him trying his hardest not to smile. His mouth twitch [inaudible: 47:32] gets this like, okay. And then he trumps back into the house and I finished shoveling the driveway. A few days later we had another snowstorm I go out and I start shoveling his driveway. Same pattern. A couple of minutes later, hears the door, it slams and he comes out what are you doing? Well, I said, I’m shoveling your driveway. I’m getting my fat guy exercise. Well, that was for the other day. And I said well, I’m still fat. He’s like, okay. He trumps back and slammed the door, and I keep working. But then about three minutes later he came back out and he was dressed for shoveling snow. And he started shoveling with me. And then we started talking, just small talk. I started getting to know him a little bit. And it went on like that for a few more times. But he would be out there until one day I get up, I knew it snowed. I get up, getting ready and I hear this scrape, scrape, scrape out front. I come out, and Mark is out shoveling my driveway. So I get outside, and that’s how we got to be friends. Mark was known for when people would come by, if they walked by his house and they had a dog or a cat or anything, he would just come out the door even if they didn’t go in the yard. He’d come out, get that animal away from my yard and yell about that stuff. Well, the next summer Mark didn’t yell at people anymore. It was amazing. The next Winter I go out and start helping to shovel his snow, we’re shoveling snow and the next thing I know he’s opening the door and he’s got a snowblower. And he says, you inspired me to fix this thing. It’s been broken for 15 years. I didn’t have a snowblower but he would come and snow blow and I would shovel and we started serving more of our neighbors. And that just goes to show Mark is my friend now. And he’s not known as the neighborhood grouch anymore.

Barry Shore:

He’s touching hearts and changing lives. First of all, please tell me, touch my heart and change my life. Tell me that I’m not frozen anymore. Am I still frozen? 

Randy McNeely:

You’re great. It’s a little bit blurry. I apologize. I should have said something earlier. It’s been that way for the entire time. But that’s okay. We can all hear you Barry, and we can see you for the most part.

Barry Shore:

The good news is that people can hear it and experience what wonderful Randy has been talking about. And I think this is such a place to hold for the moment. I have three quick questions for you wonderful, Randy. Are you ready? 

Randy McNeely:

Yeah. 

Barry Shore:

Number one. Will you come back again? 

Randy McNeely:

Oh, absolutely. Anytime. [Inaudible: 51:00] back tomorrow. 

Barry Shore:

Thank you. Number two, you only have 80 seconds to answer this. What is your most fervent desire?

Randy McNeely:

My most fervent desire is to be able to inspire people to be kind. To give away kindness, to love people, and inspire everyone I can to do the same thing.

Barry Shore:

Thank you. Remember, as Randy mentioned, it begins with you. Y-o-u-e-w-e. You’re the tip of the spear. And the third question is, may I give you a hug in front of 368,292 people around the world. 

Randy McNeely:

Absolutely. 

Barry Shore:

Let me tell you what hugs stands for. Hug stands for heartfelt, unlimited giving. Ready 1-2-3- roar. This is The Joy of Living with your humble host Barry Shore. You tuned in purposely and conscientiously for one reason, and one reason only because you care the most in the whole world about you. And you know that when you use the three fundamentals of life that we discuss on this show you will be happier, healthier, and wealthier. We guarantee it. Randy and I guarantee it or your money back. And the three fundamentals are number one, life. Your life has purpose, you are special, and you’re unique. Number two, when you live a purpose-driven life you can go mad. Mad stands for make a difference in the world, shovel snow, or just walk by and say hello to somebody. That’s going mad. And number three, unlock the power and the sequence of everyday words and terms www what a wonderful world. Smile, see miracles in life every day or as my eight-year-old niece says, see miracles in everyday life. Create the kind of world we want to live in causing, rethinking, and enabling all to excel. Choice not chance determines your destiny. You choose how to respond to any given situation. Look what Randy has done and look what happened with Mark, They chose to live in kindness. And use four-letter words. The four-letter words are used in the positive, purposeful, powerful, pleasant world are love, life, hope, grow, free, play, snow, and swim. And tell the world to F U capital N, capital N. Got to remember that. Add that F U capital N, capital N. And use the two most powerful words in the English language three times a day, consciously and conscientiously from now and for the rest of your life. The two words are thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thanks [unintelligible: 53:35] to harmonize and network kindness. Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Therefore be kind always keep inspiring noble deeds. And thank you so much wonderful, Randy. And our blessing to everybody is from Randy and Barry, go forth. Live exuberantly, spread the seeds of joy, happiness, peace, and love. Go mad. Go make a difference.

Outro  

Thank you for listening to this episode of The Joy of Living Podcast. Now, that’s another step towards your healthier, happier, and wealthier life. Never hesitate to do good in the world no matter what the situation. Join us for another upbeat discussion next time at barryshore.com. And be sure to leave a rating and subscribe to the show to get more conversations like this. And remember to share it with your family and friends too. See you on the next episode.

About Randy McNeely

Randy McNeely is an author, speaker, singer, song writer, podcast host, execiutive producer passionate kindness advocate, and kindness leadership coach. Randy is the author of “The Kindness Givers’ Formula,” sharing a simple yet powerfully effective formula for touching hearts, changing lives, and transforming the world. Randy is also the Executive Producer and Creator of “The Kindness Factor,” a positive reality TV show showcasing individuals and organizations with powerful and emotionally engaging kindness stories. Additionally, Randy is the founder of The PEPOK Institute – helping individuals and organizations create intentionally designed world-class personal and professional cultures through the positive engagement and economic power of kindness. Randy is married to an angel and is the father of five beautiful children.