[11.36] The Games of Life

• What’s the purpose of a relationship when you enter someone’s life?
• The three primary life games:

1. Health Game
2. Money Game
3. Relationship Game

• You’ve a biological vessel that’s carrying you around
• The health game is constantly in reality & you can’t avoid it
• You may want to become a hermit; it’s not widely taken up vocation
• Whether you’re in monastic environment or not, the money game exists
• Even Hermits must have relationship with themselves
• We’re a communal species
• There are many games that are optional

[14.51] Stages of Relationship

• The prime directive of life which is growth and maturation
• What appears to be the consistent code? We must keep growing
• The ongoing creation of new beliefs
• Reviewing & upgrading those beliefs is called growth
• We’re supposed to continue to evolve our understanding
• The medium by which we grow is challenge, breakdown, struggle & disappointment
• Your flawed beliefs, decisions and assumptions are brought to your awareness
• It seems there’s an invisible agenda called maturation
• Gathering awareness & clearing the clarity of our understanding is maturation

[25.15] Growth

• It’s not good if you’re a know-it-all and you can’t take any feedback
• External world agenda of relationship was based around commercial or status interaction
• Internal world of agenda is maturation
• Our entire life is a pathway to eldership
• If you play money, relationship, and health games consciously, you evolve and become more competent
• If you can’t play money game consciously, it plays you
• If you don’t relate to your life as a growth centric, it plays you
• Escalating feedback principle
• Relating to emotions differently to the way you relate to business
• If you ignore the signposts for you to gather a piece of awareness
• The universe seems to increase the discomfort of the feedback

[31.08] Relationship

• Large number of people don’t relate to entering someone’s life with reverence
• When I’ve struggled, I ask myself: “What am I missing? – What’s the silver lining?”
• The game of life gives you a solution-focused mentality
• I’m willing to reflect and introspect
• The other person you love is also in the middle of their unique game of life
• It’s possible that our soul is made up of same stuff of divine intelligence
• Both of you in a relationship are on your own life journey of maturation
• You join forces with the prime directive of life itself

[37.33] Archetypal Relationship

• I’ve not been indoctrinated by any pre-existing prep frameworks
• Archetypes equals operating systems
• The human psyche has evolved to ensure the survival of the species
• The human psyche has evolved with four operating systems

1. Sovereign
2. Warrior
3. Magician
4. Lover

• We’re all born with a strong leaning in one direction
• The sovereign realm is concerned with the external world & the near future
• The warrior is interested in integrity of people rather than systems
• Warrior likes to be on a mission
• Magician realm is first of the internal operating systems
• Magician realm likes humor, play, ideas, creativity, and color
• Lover realm is also internal world
• They care about emotions and connections
• They want everybody to be happy and safe
• Chances are you’ve married an opposite archetypal type

[54.06] Eldership

• The archetypal wisdom is body of knowledge that is mandatory
• The archetypal wisdom reveals the map and playing field
• No.1 source of suffering is confusion
• It’s absolutely misinterpreting people’s behavior wrongly
• Archetypal wisdom also reveals the dysfunction of your life
• It reveals how you let yourself down
• It reveals how do you move from immature imbalanced sheep to a mature lover

What’s your most fervent desire?

My most fervent desire is the full profundity and potential of archetypal wisdom is made clear for a generation. It becomes a household conversation. People become capable of understanding themselves and their loved ones.

Relationship Researcher for 37 years. Creator of the life changing Relationship Breakthrough Weekend. And Founder of the Archetypal Relationships Academy.